Dear Sex Guidess,

Get the Man Magazine—under the bed in the drawer in the bathroom where ever it may be.

Direct him to the bed lying on his side naked. With his head on his hand. You're not naked you are standing at the foot of the bed staring at him. Holding the magazine wrapped up like a spankin' stick tapping it on the palm of your hand. Tap, tap, tap.

Holding your attitude firmly. Hold it ... hold it ... now silence.

Open up the mag, lay it down in front of him and tell him to flip through the pages. He looks at you through his brow because he knows what's going to happen if he keeps looking. Heading toward the centerfold you see a jerk—then another one, then another ...

You don't smile or laugh just a little "I knew it eye." Then he hits the center fold and that's the topper full steam ahead. Strip and let-go because you are on top now so mmm you can smile.

With Love,

Sex Guidess

Dear Sex Guidess,

Do you hate men after being in this business? What are the rules of attraction? Is it always looks? Do you take time to talk with them before you hop in the sack?

Now for the Big Gurl stuff ...

Do I hate men? Absolutely not. Why would I bite the hand off that fed me. Some I didn't get along with; I just didn't see them again.

Do I understand men ... yeah. They want sex and lots of it. I know a thought alone can make a man hard. A look alone can take him to bed without him even moving an inch. You don't have to dress too scantily clad either. All you need is your naked eyes. The rule of attraction in my book was chemistry. I either felt it or I didn't. If I didn't, I would just wait for another to come around.

A man is a man is a man. Most come by for one thing. The only thing ... pussy. Meow. You would be very surprised to know not all are out for that. They come in for attention. Some conversation. A little bit of unconditional affection. A little ego pump doesn't hurt. Some of these guys have been hurt badly by a relationship and can't seem to pick themselves off the floor. Some just recently divorced in need of a sex-esteem lift. Some lost their significant other and are trying to heal and carry on. Some haven't had sex in years and want to know if it still works. It usually does ... very quickly. Then it works again.

I condoned looks more than a person's mood. I had to create some kind of trust with a stranger by asking the right questions, getting beyond any talk about the weather, looking for an immediate story to give me a clue as to what makes them tick. It's like dating in the fast lane. Cutting out all the crap and getting down to business. Money took second place to safety because I learned no one is going to protect me but me.

With Love,

Sex Guidess

"Hi Veeness, I'd like to pick you," he said holding out his hand. Shaking hers.

Veeness never calls them tricks, she calls them Mores that's all they ever want is more.

Dressed like taffy, in multi-colored pink, yellow and white. With two pig-tails in ribbons drawn up high with the rest of her long brown hair curled and flowing.

She sits down on the bar stool awaiting his first question. Will it be the weather or something that may tick her off? Lighting up her cigarette she realizes, he's harmless.

He says, he likes her cotton candy pink heels.

She says, thank-you looking at them.

He's really looking at her legs.

She says, she got her nails done today.

He doesn't care he's looking at her coconuts.

She says, she wants another drink.

He doesn't; he wants to chase her tail.

So that's her cue but nothing is gonna touch these brand new tights. So he's in the shower, washing off a hard days work. There will be no More if he's smelly.

With Love,

Sex Guidess

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Dear Sex Guidess,

My boyfriend and have been wanting to play Dom-Sub. We just don't know what is best. We have read some books on it but haven't found what works for us. I want to play Dom but I am really a submissive. He wants me to Dominate him. How do I do this without hurting him or doing the wrong thing?

Entering the "Discipline Section," please.

Here is the sound of a "Pink Dom":

Bad Gurl ... Hands on hips. Strong stance. No submission. Stern silence. No sway. Virtually straight. Think pink corset. Suppressing desire. Frilly hot pants. Shiny black boots.

Bad Boy ... tied to the chair with colorful scarves.

Gently trapped.

Hmmm ... Time for a 10 minute "out-time." Leaving the room ... tap, tap, tap. Quiet. It's really not control just discipline to hold still. He can't leave. He can't go. Taking it slow.

Submitting to patience. Submitting to mystery. What will happen next?

Time for the switch.

Back in the room, holding on to the mental tide. Untying him, feeling his desire rise for participation ... after he smells perfume. He listens, waiting, for your receptive permission.

Approval invitation.

OK, clothes drop, hands scatter and travel. No confusion, no chatter. Wrapping the mind around the creaking of the bed.

Domination/submission is a mind game. These kind of mind games are made to fit the person you are with. Size up boundaries with careful consideration. Discipline is a fine line between control and manipulation. If misused that's when it can hurt.

With Love,

Sex Guidess

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Dear Sex Guidess,

Bedroom door shut and locked.

Candy cane thigh-hi's, sparkling red high-heeled shoes. Panties—lacy red. Red velvet dress with a shiny black belt. Low cut neck with a white feathery lining.

Ah ah ah ... can't touch ... yet. Sitting him down on top of his hands.

Flipping on the music slow with a steady bounce. Looking over your shoulder with eyes that say "are you ready?" Confidence now. Hint of a smile 'cuz you know he's gonna like this.

Reaching all the way down hands on open toe heels. Concentrating on eye contact; the best tease. Leading his mind to exactly where you please. Leaving him partially satisfied. Hands travel up your legs holding his gaze. Timing it just right so he doesn't fade.

Pulling up the dress ever so slightly. Giving a look out of the corner of your eye. Tiny smile. Oops—little strap off the shoulder—there it goes ... watch it, watch it, now there he grows. Rearranging himself in his chair.

Ah, ah, ah ... no touching now.

Bending over face to face. Checking cleavage ... yes it's in place. Eye contact full of tease with pink lips ... smiling. Still no touching; teasing is really something like running. Don't give in to the chase just yet. Bite your lip stepping back.

Slowly letting go of all those clothes. Leaving thigh-hi's on for warmth. Now the countdown 5,4,3,2,1 ... now it's time to stop the run.

Tease is not necessarily a quick strip. The whole point of teasing is to turn on the mind then the other will follow.

Don't forget: Booty is on the inside. All imperfections disappear the moment you realize a perfect attitude is all you need!

With Love,

Sex Guidess

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How do you stay clean in this business? Do you check customers in the Cathouse? Didn't you worry about getting something?

"Love the smell of rubber gloves in the morning." (Snap!)

You cannot rub a guy down with beta-dyne solution and alcohol it will totally kill the mood. Seriously. Rub this poor man down—front and back. All the way up his back? (Yep) His stomach too? Brrrr ...

Willy won't go ... duh.

Thinking, thinking. Trying to figure out if the girl who broke me in the house, wanted me to succeed or fail. Well no matter, anyhow, her obsessive cleaning approach was quickly overturned by the "Sensible Germ Committee." Yeah, germs exist, OK, doesn't obsessing about it ask for it?

Obsessing. Obsessing.

Of course, there are different approaches to germ freak out sessions. Bleach, sure, bleach. Bleach sprayed all the way around the room on the base boards. Really? I didn't think germs hung out on baseboards but by the looks of all the white spots on the burgundy carpet, they do.

Save me from germ paranoia.

Soap and water. Wash before and after. Getting checked by a doctor weekly is enough to keep anyone on their toes. In the house—before any money changes hands—checking the customer is a must.

With Love,

Sex Guidess

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What is it like to do pole moves? I've always wanted to try. What's the funniest thing you have done on stage and what is the worst thing? Is it very competitive between girls? What do you do when no one tips?

Pump it up ... pump it up!

Grab the stronghold. Taking the place of a man. Strong -always- holds. Using every muscle. Not letting go. Centrifugal force carries long legs around and around. Uhhhhh, back in the biz after a vacation. Hard stage. Hurting knees. New move. That'll bruise.

Damn ...

Knocked his drink over. Oops! Sorry. Didn't mean to make you look like you pissed your pants. Nothing these Pretty boots can't do.

Boom ... Boom ... Boom ...

That's the song. Name call. Up, up the stage. Isopropyl; brass rub down, top to bottom. Gripping the pole moving your hand up and down insuring no slip. It's a perch when no one is watching. It's home base when no one cares. A spectator sport to those who couldn't, won't or shouldn't. Customers in awe sometimes forget to tip. Circular motions with a constant flow. Pole trick after pole trick after pole trick. Feeling a little dizzy. Gracefully kneeling on the stage pulling out soft genuine sensuality. "A woman's embrace." Customers eyes soften.

Collecting tips.

Back on the pole with those hot pink heels with no strap. Determined to go mighty fast. Step, step, grab, hold-tight, spin. It's on. Then it's off. My shoe, my shoe where's my shoe. Looking, looking nowhere to be found. Crap. All a person can do is laugh. Stunned customers leave the stage afraid they could lose something more than a dollar. A handsome prince saves the day puts it on the Cinderella way. Doesn't happen to everyone. Just me. No money this set. Insecurity brush off. Keep the shoulders clean. Next time.

Real ...

Sensual art. Sensual sport. "Sports mentality". Glasses ... so smart. Out-fits ... so cute. Glitter makin' your mark. Pole tricks so complex and original; girls copy your moves.

With Love,

Sex Guidess

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How do girls get into this line of work? There is this idea that sex workers are desperate drug fiends who do it to finance there meth habits, but that's not why you were there. Why were you there?

When I was little, I dreamed of one day standing on the streets half-naked in 20-degree weather in six-inch heels wearing four pairs of panty hose; hustlin' ...

Not.

In need of a mental nudge, push or force? The profession has the power to choose you. Where money makes a slip and slide into home base easier.

Me? Made for the trade? Yeah, through many years of evolution. Walking out ...

... Sexually intoxicated ...

Sitting down, during that moment of negotiation. Flirtatiously inspiring instinctual sensation. Releasing fantasies negating suppression. Encouraging that possible date to breathe out of sexual suffocation.

... Smile ... And ... Breathe ...

Not all in the pussy trade play with poison that drains a soul. Many have bills and families they responsibly care for.

With Love,

Sex Guidess

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I seem to have trouble maintaining an erection, unless I can be completely naked (no protection), and even the miracle drugs like Viagra do not overcome the reality of a prophylactic device (meaning that the enhancement drugs don't work) ... can you help me interpret this scenario?

Both your heads need to come together and have a man to man.

Communication is key; aren't you both on the same team? Reaching for the same goals?

Obviously, the hard head is not you but the "master" of your senses.

His hard head needs a hard hat.

Remember--you are in control, well not always, but make him think so. Besides, you don't want to feel that aftermath paranoia just because you gave into his nature addiction ...

Oh man, am I clean?

So what we got laid!

Uhhh ...

A-tten-tion!

Bury yourself in the moment. Don't think about tomorrow or someone else (unless the beer goggles stopped working).

You are the King of your own throne. Sheathe your honor; till you find your fair maiden.

With Love,

Sex Guidess

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Is it common for a Sex Worker to fake an orgasm or to fake an emotion with a "Trick"?

You mean my desk is a bed and I get paid to orgasm too?

Whoa ...

Fake it? Why fake when you can have one.

Focus ... focus ... here it comes ... here it comes and

WHAM

What!? You're done, I was almost there. There's no time. I'm gonna get my call.

Oh well, can't be selfish. I'll just play with the perfect man—the one with attachments.

Trick: Did you?

Kitty-Cat: Umm ... yeah

Trick: How many times?

Kitty-Cat: Umm ... two times

Trick (Scratching his head): Are you lying?

Kitty-Cat (Slipping on her heels): Couldn't you tell?

Was that apart of the negotiations you really want

It's just sex.

You pay

we play

we both go our separate ways ...

It's just sex?

For some, there is always that one that can make

With Love,

Sex Guidess

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