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Re: “Take a Village

Barbara, Thank God your "karma" doesn't rule the world, because otherwise all children would be left with their biological parents no matter what the condition! I have no idea of what it would be like to have my children taken away from me. Christiana was given many opportunities to accomplish what the court ordered.

FYI: One morning I went over and showed Christiana how to clean and disinfect her refrigerator. She is mild mannered and sweet, but pretty lacking in her ability to comprehend things. She has had a lot of abuse in her lifetime and it has most likely "stunted" her development. The things she and her children were exposed to before coming to the U.S. are incomprehensible--we'll never know the trauma they were all exposed to.

I have to add that the foster families didn't take away the children from Christiana. The state did. Once again, if her advocates hadn't been so hostile Christiana would have the ability to see her children.

Like I mentioned, Christiana is sweet and mild mannered, but that doesn't make her mentally capable of caring for those children. One last thing, one of her children had the opportunity to stay with a really nice family for a couple of weeks (when Christiana still had her kids). After that experience, this child would get into our cars when we went over to visit and would beg us to take him home with us.

I don't believe being a Christian makes us any better of a person than those like you Barbara with your karma. We are all called to live outside ourselves and do for others. Try it sometime.

Posted by jbw on 03/05/2010 at 3:24 PM

Re: “Take a Village

Though parts of this story may be accurate, what is so sad is that the good people who stepped in to help Christiana and her children did it because of their love for her. There is so much I could tell you about this "story", but there just isn't enough time. I will tell you that her children were not thriving until 12-15 people stepped up and showed her how to refrigerate her meat, get her kids ready for school, clean her bathroom, monitor the thermostat, wash dishes, wash clothes, tell time, the list goes on and on.

There were times when I went to Christiana's home to visit and the apartment was below 60 degrees in the winter; food wasn't being refrigerated and the refrigerator had blood dripping all over everything in it; the children could stay up as long as they wanted (even when they had school the next day) and eat candy, donuts, cookies, and drink pop as much as they liked; the kids could play wherever they wanted; etc. Christiana had been shown over and over how to use the thermostat, shown how to use the phone, etc. She had been in Boise for over a year when I noticed the above occurring.

One morning I went by to visit her and the two little ones, the older children were in school, and both kids were in diapers; the baby was in his crib wide awake with no blanket covering him. The apartment's thermostat was set in the mid 50's and the place was really cold.

It wasn't long after that mold was found in the baby's formula can, clothes in the dishwasher, . . . It IS sad that Christiana doesn't have her kids living with her anymore, but the families that have her kids have taken them in as if they were their own children. Christiana should be happy that they are now thriving! A couple of the older ones still struggle in school, but are catching up fast. Christiana is illiterate (in her own language), so helping her kids with homework was impossible. In fact, she could hardly get them to the bus on time. They missed so much school the first couple of years, you wonder why the school system didn't get involved.

They are now happy, healthy children that are being cared for in a way that Christiana was never able to provide. Christiana knows deep in her heart that her children are living in loving Christian homes and doing better than they ever have before. I know the kids miss her, but Health & Welfare won't allow her to see the kids at this time (perhaps if her "advocate group" was more mild-mannered that would change). The foster families can't wait until the day that they can invite Christiana back into their homes. Before she lost parental rights many weekends were spent together. They don't want to deprive their kids of her, but at this time they have no choice in this matter.

If you were to bump into her kids, you would see what happy, loving children they are. Why should we deprive them of the endless opportunities they now have, because their biological mother thinks she knows what is best for them? Pray for Christiana and her children; my kids and I do every night!

Posted by jbw on 03/05/2010 at 11:57 AM

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