Minerva's Breakdown: Barbie Doldrums 

"Is it normal to think about gender this much?"

Dear Minerva:

I've lived 31 years of my life as a cis, gay man. I've never struggled with dysphoria. I don't look in the mirror and hate that I have a penis. However, for as long as I can remember, I've questioned my gender. I remember being a young boy and playing with Barbies and dressing up as Ginger Spice, and wishing that I could be a girl. I love wearing dresses, and living my femme fantasy - so much so that I recently started performing in drag. I think that I hoped drag would give me a better sense of my own gender. In a way, it has, but also, it hasn't answered the questions I still have about myself. Is it normal to think about my gender this much? I know that it's a journey for me to discover and identify myself, but do you have any advice?


Barbie Doldrums

Dear Barbie:

If you read my response to "Come Out Queen," you know that I advocate for people living their truth. Interests outside of what is archaically considered "male" or "female" is relatable to anyone with an imagination. Thinking about your gender as outside of societal constructs can be complicated. Clothing has no gender. Clothing has neither genitalia nor sexuality. Clothing is inanimate. Wear what makes you feel good. We all deserve to feel good about our mortal vessel. As Socrates stated, "The unexamined life is not worth living." Seeking to understand yourself, is a noble undertaking. Cast away worries about what others think. Knowing who you are is too precious to involve the opinions of those who don't know you as well as you know yourself.

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