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Advice for those on the verge


Dear Minerva Jayne,
My brother is engaged to get married and has asked me to be his best man. I haven’t seen him in six years, with only the occasional, surface level conversation. My family is devoutly Mormon, and my parents cut me out of their lives after I came out as gay. My brother and I have never been close. Should I agree to be a part of the wedding party, or just drop off my gift and take my cake to go?

Bee in a Bind

Dear Bee,
Returning to the “hive” is a daunting proposal. Does your brother accept you for who you are, including your sexuality? Has he made any attempt at building a relationship since your parents cast you out of their lives? If so, don’t punish your brother for the sins of your parents. If you think his request is sincere, take this chance to reconcile. If your intuition tells you otherwise, decline his invitation and wish him well.

Wedding cake isn’t worth the sting of heartbreak. Whether or not your family will ever shake their rigid views of your sexuality, you deserve to be respected and loved. You are more than a photo-op on one day of their lives. Unsure? Talk to him. You don’t need to live your life as just another bee in the trap. Good luck!

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