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Advice for those on the verge


Dear Minerva,

I'm a 33-year-old woman in a lesbian relationship. I love to masturbate three to four times a day. Will doing this affect my relationship or sex life with my partner? Is there such a thing as overstimulation? I love my vibrator but I'm worried it will cause me to have trouble orgasming the "manual way." Help.

-Clitty-Clitty Bang-Bang

Dear CCBB,

I believe in taking a hands-on approach to pleasure whenever necessary. In my opinion, as long as "kneading the love muffin" isn't causing physical pain or affecting your day-to-day life, go for it. If you are missing appointments and work responsibilities in order to get off, you might need to rethink "driving Miss Daisy" (or at least just taking her around the block instead of cross country). If you're choosing to "paddle the pink canoe" rather than enjoying sex with your partner or it's difficult for your partner to pleasure you, then it might be time to lay off the self-love. Better yet, include her in your "skittle-diddling" good time. Mutual masturbation can be loads of fun. Ask your partner how she feels and then go from there. According to the research I did, vibrator use shouldn't affect your ability to orgasm. Pay attention to your body's cues and find the sweet spot for yourself.

Happy Mistressbating!

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