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Minerva's Breakdown 

Advice for those on the verge


Dear Minerva,

What are your thoughts on blowing the whistle when it comes to revealing someone's partner is being unfaithful? In this culture of "bros before hoes," do we still have the responsibility of being empathetic and helping the person ultimately being cheated on, even if it is the significant other of a friend? It is my personal policy to treat others the way I want to be treated, and I know (from personal experience) that if my significant other was cheating on me, I would want someone to tell me. What is your perspective?


About to Blow the Whistle

Dear About to Blow,

While you seem driven by a moral code, things are not as simple as they used to be. Many people define infidelity outside of the parameters of tradition. Tread lightly. Unless you know for certain they are not in a permissive, polyamorous or open relationship, then the best advice is to mind your own bloody business. My perspective is to let people scrub out their own dirty laundry. If I were being cheated on, I would not want the cheater's guilt and shame to become my pain. With the information you have provided (or haven't provided, for that matter), I wouldn't touch this with a 10-foot pole. Why be the smug-faced bearer of bad news? As Kacey Musgraves sings, "Mind your own biscuits, and life will be gravy."

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