Minerva's Breakdown 

Advice for those on the verge

Dear Minerva,

I'm a widow nearing 60. I have a crush on a single man I've known for a long time. I'm feeling obsessed with him and trying to control myself, with limited results. I text him several times a day, and he reciprocates and even initiates. The problem is he's had some bad relationships and lost all trust in women. While he says I'd be a "great wife," he doesn't want to get hurt again. He wants to be "just the best friends forever." How can I get more from this wonderful man?

—Sexy Sixty

Dear Sexy Sixty,

Once upon a time there was a blonde bombshell. She fell in love with a guy. He took her to a dance. He was kind, but he was never going to love her in the way she wanted. Fast forward many years. They are still incredibly close friends, and the blonde bombshell is grateful nothing more happened because instead of a short-lived fling, the friendship has endured. If you hadn't guessed, I'm that blonde bombshell and thankful he is part of my life to this day. Just as your heart wants what it wants, so does his. Decide if you can bear nothing more than friendship. If not, it's OK to walk away. You can't make anyone love you—but sometimes friendship plants the seeds of love.

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