Minerva's Breakdown 

Advice for those on the verge


Dear Minerva,

I want to be able to do things with my friends, but my "partner" doesn't appreciate my friends the way I do. When I have plans to do something and even want to include him, he almost always gets in the way and, ultimately, I end up missing out. What should I do?


On a Short Leash

Dear Short Leash,

It is absolutely your right to continue to nurture relationships with your friends and whether your partner likes your friends doesn't give him cause to keep you cooped up. Human beings are social, and we should always have the option to spend time with people we love. In my mind, it's clearly time for a "come to Jesus" talk, where you let him know, in no uncertain terms, your friends will remain in your life. If it takes extra finessing to work the scheduling out, that is a simple enough task. If he wants to join, and that is cool with your friends, even better. If other incidents that have transpired have broken your partner's trust in you, those will need to be addressed while you are at it. If there have been no transgressions of the sort, however, enough is enough. It is 2016, and people are not property. Now, go YouTube Leslie Gore's "You Don't Own Me," and prepare to lay down the law. Just because you are partnered up doesn't mean you don't need friends.

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