DEAR MINERVA,

My boyfriend is exploring his feminine side in the bedroom with me. I don't mind if he wants to wear makeup and use butt plugs. But now he's talking about waxing his eyebrows and legs. A more permanent exploration.…

Dear Minerva,

I keep getting non-stop telemarketer calls on my phone. They've even spammed my number so it looks like I'm calling others and even looks like I've called myself. I even had one use a dead relative's number, which was very upsetting.…

Dear Minerva,

If I occasionally enjoy having a lady join in the fun with my boyfriend and I, does that make me "bisexual" or just "bi-curious?" I seem to be straddling some sort of line. I do love a woman's body and thoroughly enjoy these encounters.…

DEAR MINERVA,

My long-time boyfriend and I are finally tying the knot. We're excited for our big day and have so many ideas. We both have large families and a lot of friends.…

DEAR MINERVA,

So here's the deal - my boyfriend has asked me to try pegging with him. I'm excited and terrified as I don't want to hurt him, but I also prefer to be the sub in the bedroom. I dominate every area of my life; the bedroom is my refuge where I know I'm not in control.…

Dear Minerva,

You helped me before with the pushy ex-wife trying to control me. We've been making some progress but I found out that she has talked openly to her child about my daughters. I've raised three teenagers who are community involved, do well in school, as well as sports. I have raised them to be open-minded humans with respect for others and themselves.…

Dear Minerva,

I have a friend who was dating a guy. She seemed really into him and they seemed like a great fit for awhile but we all got this feeling that it was just one of those fun flings. Nothing serious.…

Dear Minerva,

My fiancé and I are trying to plan our wedding. The question is not whether to invite my father, but rather how to tell him he's not invited. Suffice to say, he did horrific things to my sister, and she and her children are naturally a part of the wedding.…

Dear Minerva,

When I was a 24-year-old single mom, I dated and later married a man 28 years my senior. I firmly believed age was "just a number." He knew me better than I knew myself.…

Dear Minerva,

I'm exhausted by social media. I can hardly stand to log in to Facebook anymore. The posts fill me with disappointment about our world.…

Dear Minerva,

I travel a lot for my job, and get greeted with a formal greeting like "Hello Mr. Smith. Welcome back to the hotel." It got me thinking, if I didn't identify as male or female, what would be the appropriate greeting other than Mr. or Ms. for a non-binary person?

Dear Minerva,

My mother recently died and I have had hard the task of going through her things. I didn't expect it to be easy. I also didn't expect to discover that there appear to have been Nazis in our family.…

Dear Minerva,

I had a friend that was like a brother to me. Then his boyfriend tried to sleep with me and I was cut out. I think he blames me, and people can have their opinions, but I genuinely care for this friend and would never desire to hurt him. He rejects and ignores all of my reaching out.…

DEAR MINERVA,

My boyfriend and I moved in together after a year of dating. His kids and my kids get along well, however, one of his kids stirs up issues with his ex-wife. I adore this man - he's thoughtful, funny, and can keep up with me in bed like no man before him.…

Dear Minerva,

I love hosting friends, and want to have people over, but I fear that having a strong personality and a reputation as someone who likes to have 'fun' while openly partnered leads people to not come over when I'm not seeking more than friendship. How do I balance friends in town, keep a reputation from going out of control and also explore sexuality when it's wanted?

—Sincerely, Sociable

Dear Minerva,

I'm writing today about an issue I seem to have perennially, and I've never really found a healthy way to deal with it. Basically, I find that whenever I see two people enjoying each other's company, be they friend, stranger or foe, I find myself completely consumed with jealousy. This is especially problematic where friends are concerned.…

DEAR MINERVA,

You state strong opinions with class, yet somehow avoid the current abusive socio-political fray in our country. What would you recommend to keep such a well-focused perspective?

—Sincerely, Fray Melee

Dear Minerva,

I really try to be open-minded and accept that we all come from different parts of the world and have different viewpoints, but recently one of my Facebook "friends" made some blatantly racist remarks. So my question is, do I call him out publicly like was done to Roseanne Barr, or just quietly unfriend him?

—Sincerely, Holding Back

Dear Minerva,

I have a friend who is unhappy with her body. Whenever our friend group gets together, she insists on reviewing any photos that will be posted online. If she doesn't like a photo, she'll ask that person to send her the photo so she can crop it or she'll veto it. If it's posted without her permission, she'll demand that it be deleted.…

Dear Minerva,
One of my closest friends is in a relationship with a guy that she has only been dating for about 5 months. She has decided to move in with him even though they haven’t been together that long. I want her to be happy but I worry that this will put her in a bad place in a couple of months if it doesn’t work out. How do I talk her out of it?

Dear Minerva,

In a couple of your articles you have used "LGBTQIA+." I know what the "LGBT" is. Can you explain the "QIA" and especially the "+" please?

Sincerely, XYZ?

Pride week is here and that means there will many people out and about this week celebrating LGBTQIA+ accomplishments. Here are a few thing to keep in mind:

1. Everyone who supports LGBTQIA+ rights is welcome.…

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